The following article may help us understand an inner enemy that we also perhaps is struggling against.
By Oscar. V. Cruz, DD
Views and Points, CBCP News
October 24, 2016
Ego-centric, ego-centered, ego-maniac. Self-centered, self-absorbed, self-satisfied, self-contented. Conceited, smug, vain. All these are some key words in layman’s language for identifying and understanding a person who is “Narcissistic”. This personal liability is in the context and implication of “I” and “me” and “myself”. This is the trio that somehow point out the centerpiece of the above-said egocentric malady. Someone existing and living in his or her world, somebody who has himself or herself as the center-point of everybody and everything else—such can be considered as the external manifestations of constitutional individualism.
All the above descriptive egoism incarnate make the person concerned as the beginning and the end of everybody else as well as everything else. It is himself or herself what counts the most in all agenda—plans, designs, projects. Everything and everybody else are expected to have the said subject individual as the key and central reference point—or nobody and nothing ultimately matters for him or her. So it is that the common denominator of all those afflicted by such an egocentric personality liability is the strong, consistent and persistent sense of self in terms of superlative importance, significance and relevance. In other words, the same should be the center of attraction, the focus of attention, the object of adulation. Anybody and everybody else—what they think and say, what they do or not do—none of these really matter.
So is it that someone with the innate personality trait of “Ego-centricity” has some kind of a delusive perception of supra big self-importance such that he or she has and entertains the feeling of immense self-worth and wherefore entitled to pursuant focal attention of everybody else. The individual concerned has a grandiose personal self-perception such that this highly superior personal self-assessment becomes mandatory for all others to carefully relate with him and to unconditionally obey him. Otherwise, all of them would be big losers—not knowing what is good for them. The truth is that the subject-victim of the said ego-centric personality constitution can go as far as feeling omnipotent and wherefore singular, unique and indispensable.
Considering themselves wherefore as special persons, it is understandable that anyone saddled by “Ego-centricity” demand and expect special treatment precisely because they are special individuals—according to their special worth and dignity. So it is that they strongly dislike if not actually hate criticism—even feeling much offended by the indifference and disdain of others towards their own perceived distinct self-worth and consequent self-importance. And so it is that they are not merely upset but also angered—if not actually enraged—when others do not notice, much less acknowledge their own perceived self-worth, their own perceived and sustained uniqueness. They think as they please. They say what they want. They do as they like. Everybody and everything else do not matter!