When you are a president-elect of a country, and you easily blow your top every time something or someone gets under your skin, you cannot get away with the consequences of your obvious anger problem by trying afterward to make appear what you have rudely said as if some kind of a [lunatic] strategy. The mainstream national media and the silent majority of the national citizenry are not as coward or timid as what you might have thought to be cowered by your thoughtless intimidation and threats. Your antics, instead of helping project yourself as a strong president, it only makes you appear as an irritable leader who can easily be manipulated by playing on your anger problem.
Ask people what makes them really angry and you'll get different answers. For some, it's entirely situational: being stuck in traffic, facing long lineups at the checkout, being on hold for 20 minutes and then being cut off.
Once you know what makes you angry, try to analyze why. Your frustration at traffic delays may actually be disappointment with yourself for leaving late or annoyance at having to run that errand. Your anger with your wife or girlfriend may be more about unmet expectations and miscommunications than actual wrongdoings. Furthermore, criticism may shake your self-confidence or bring back memories of schoolyard taunts.
There's a major difference between being passionate about some things and snapping at everything. If you're under pressure at home or work, steer clear of situations or people that might push you to the brink. Drinking may also contribute to the problem and cause an inappropriate reaction.
Try to be objective. When you find yourself tensing up and angry words and actions seem imminent, refocus on the big picture. Whether you're attending your son's Little League game or watching football on TV, remember it's just a game.
If you continually try to overlook behavior and actions that irritate you, your frustration level will build up over time and you may find yourself blowing your top at a seemingly inconsequential comment or situation. Talk with your partner, friend or colleague before the problems or issues push you to the limit.
Put yourself in the other person's shoes. You cannot know the circumstances that preceded your encounter with the obnoxious flight attendant and you don't know why the phone company rep was doing such a perfect imitation of Freddy Krueger. Take the high road, be a gentleman and try to be patient.
Allow yourself more time to do things; leave earlier for the airport or the office, and avoid scheduling things too close together. Create a "Plan B" for situations that might not work out the way you expect.
Be active, go to the gym, play some sports — do anything that increases your physical activity and oxygen intake. It will lower your stress and reduce the risk of irrational rage.
Give yourself a few minutes to calm down and de-stress. Like the old saying goes: "when angry, count to 10; when very angry, count to 100." Breathe. Laugh. Take a walk. Listen to music. Instead of freely allowing yourself to be drifted away by negative emotions, channel your energy positively by concentrating on your action plan for your priority goals.
Even if you have a short fuse, you can teach yourself how to extinguish it and even learn how to avoid igniting it. Maintain control of your angry reactions and you'll reduce your stress and improve your health and well-being.